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The Rabbi Daniel Lapin Podcast
Episode: Discover If Deep Down You Are A Reality Denier
Date: 08/04/23 Length: 1:19:44
Daniel Lapin 0:00
Greetings, happy warriors. And welcome to the Rabbi Daniel Lapin show where I, your rabbi, remain resolutely committed to revealing for you how the world really works. Thanks for being part of the show. And thank you to those of you who have been so effectively communicating the show to like-minded people who'd like it. Thank you to those of you who have subscribed diligently. Those numbers continued to rise impressively. And that ends up being very good indeed, for our little platform here. So thanks to all of you and hope you enjoy another episode of The Rabbi Daniel Lapin show that is not intended for tennis balls floating down the gutter of life know, the Rabbi Daniel Lapin show is intended exclusively for happy warriors, people, men and women who with enthusiasm, passion and joy, embrace the challenges of living, beat back the dark forces that tried to obstruct your progress, and celebrate moving onwards and upwards in every one of the five critical areas of our lives. Thank you for being such wonderful, happy warriors. And for being part of this opportunity I enjoy every week to impart to you just a little bit more on how the world really works.
Daniel Lapin 1:53
And how about we start off with a really useful pair of tips. Now, I don't care what you do, or how you do it or where you do it. But there's a general truth. And that is that you only make money when you serve other human beings. Or as I like to put it when you serve God's other children. That is when it is possible for you to make money. Because if you diligently serve God's other children, then in turn, they are only too happy to put money in your hands or in your pocket, right in exactly the same way as if you need to have something done to your car. And it's done quickly and efficiently. And in a price-sensitive way, by a good mechanic, you're only too happy to pay, the mechanic has served you and you in turn, transfer money to him. And so we don't work as a full back. Disappointment, Oh, too bad that we have to we don't work in order to get money. So is that we can then enjoy the rest of our lives that are not devoted to work. No, that's not how it works. We work in order to serve other human beings. And money flows as a natural and inevitable result of that. That's not the tip of the strategy I want to tell you that's just by way of introduction. And since it is evident that the only way to make money other than taking it, which isn't the same as making it is to deliver a service or goods or value to another human being. So consequently, since most people choose with whom to do business, and since you will prosper, the more people that choose to do business with you, it naturally follows that the more people that know you, like you, and trust you, the better off is your financial side of your life.
Daniel Lapin 4:20
Now, that is still not the strategy that I want to impart to you in today's show. No. People choose to engage financially with those they know, like and trust. And what conveys that you are the sort of person that somebody would like to do business with. Well, I'll tell you one of the factors and again, being trustworthy and being likable and making obviously all of that but there's one more thing as well. And I've been noticing it more and more frequently over the last year or so. And that is that people have developed a lackadaisical way of presenting themselves, they amble rather than walk purposefully. If you notice how if you have to go into a government office, like a post office, or you have to go into any government office, you'll see that by and large, there is a lackadaisical way of treating customers, the person who greets you the reception or the first person you encounter might even take a while to actually notice you, whether that is an affectation in order to convey how important they are, or whether that is genuine involvement in other things. So they actually really do not notice you coming in the results is the same thing. In all cases, you say to yourself, if that person ever came to me for a job, I wouldn't even dream of hiring them to hold the door open. Because they obviously have absolutely no interest whatsoever in engaging productively with me, the human being they're supposed to be serving at the present time. And then you notice that if a movement is required, it is a languorous, slow movement. Have you ever noticed the way some people when you stop at a crosswalk to let people walk across, I've noticed there's two different types of people. Some people amble across, almost radiating an insolence. I'm making you stop, and I'm going to make you stop as long as I can as slow careless amble, a lazy stroll across the crosswalk. There are other people who acknowledged that you stopped your car for them. And they might give you a nod of the head or even a little wave of the hand. But mainly, they're walking briskly, they're not running, they're not acting dangerously, but they're walking briskly. And that is something that you acknowledge and you're aware of. And that is very, very important. How we move conveys a very strong impression. And so whether you are in business, or whether you think you're in a job, and you don't realize that that's also being in business. Remember that walking purposefully, a stride is much more significant than a stroll. And the impression that you convey is really important. So watch yourself, watch the way you move. And, again, I'm not speaking about whether we you know, when you're on vacation, or when you're relaxing with family, or whatever it is, but ordinarily, in business affairs, in a more formal work environment, check to see what your instinctive mode of movement is. And if it is languorous and lanuid, change it, and you'll find a result, not only in how people relate to you, but also in how you yourself feel.
Daniel Lapin 8:37
And that's still not the whole strategy I have to impart to you. But there's one more part of it that is even more important. But before that, I want to ask you please, to take a moment, and subscribe right now to the show. Go ahead and get that done for me. And I'll really appreciate that. Just subscribe again, it's there is no hardship to you. There is no downside to it that I'm aware of. It's actually of benefit to all of us. Go ahead and subscribe. And make a note also, when you've done that to go to the website at Rabbi Daniel lapin.com. And take a look at an offer we have on a wonderful book called Buried Treasure. Buried Treasure is not a finance book. It's a life book. It's actually called life lessons from the Lord's language. And I think you will find benefit in reading up about that and perhaps getting a copy for yourself or for for a gift. But anyway, that's Buried Treasure is the name of the book and it's at Rabbi Daniel lapin.com. Go ahead and try that and I think you'll find benefit in that. Have you subscribed? I don't want to nag you, I don't want to be a noodge. But that would be a very good thing, if you could, if you are on a platform that shows the number of subscribers, well, then you will see how it has been going up over the last little while. And I much appreciate that, thank you very much indeed for doing that.
Daniel Lapin 10:23
And the last part of the strategy I want to share with you is be the first to end a meeting or a conversation. Failing to do that leaves the unintended impression that you have all the time in the world. And that's simply not true, you don't, as a happy warrior, you have much to do, you have more to do than this time in which to do it. And keeping the conversation going. Just I'll tell you, when people sometimes do this, unfortunately, when they multitask, you're having a conversation with somebody, and at the same time, you're looking at a notebook, or you're looking at your computer or you're looking at your phone, whatever it is, that tends to prolong the conversation beyond the time it needs to. And then when the other person says, Well, I'm gonna let you go now, you know, you blundered, that's a really bad sign. Because you should be the one to do that. What that does is leave the impression that you are the busy person you are, you are the productive happy warrior that you are, you are the person with a whole lot of important things to do. And it makes the person to whom you were talking, feel more valued, you weren't just hanging out to them, because you got nothing better to do till they decide to end the conversation, you ended up because you had business to take care of which means the time you did spend with them was given additional value. So whether it's in person meeting or a conversation, make sure that when everything's been taken care of you move on, and whether you know, whatever your formula is, this was a wonderful opportunity, I'm pleased to have the chance to talk and catch up. Thank you for taking care of that or I will take care of what we've discussed. And I look forward to we chat again, soon off you go in the story or else I've kept you long enough. And I know you've got much to do on your whatever your formula is, but have a formula because some people find it awkward and sometimes people just hang on lingering in a conversation whose purpose has long been fulfilled simply because they don't quite know how to end it. And if you were, if you grew up as a sort of people-pleasing person, then it's you're one of those people for whom it's actually quite difficult to end the conversation. And it becomes easiest if you develop for yourself a semi-standard formula or a few formulae that you use the phrasing and the wording you use. Just learn it get used to it. And that way you can end conversations as you should do, because you are a busy, productive short of time. Happy warrior. Right? Okay, well, I know you're going to be able to catch on to that. And that's really a very valuable thing to be aware of.
Daniel Lapin 13:24
Now we go on to a new term, you know, how I use the phrase GIC government indoctrination camp for institutions that were previously known as public schools? Well, I'm introducing a new phrase, this is a phrase for progressives. It's a phrase for woke but I don't like the term woke people because I like being awake. And you can't very well constantly call people secular socialists, or secular fundamentalists or what, but it's all the same thing. And here is the correct term, reality denier or RD., an RD, a reality denier, what am I talking about? What is a reality denier? Well, last Monday. And okay, I'm preparing this podcast on Friday. And, and again, the material is generally and widely applicable. I think of it as evergreen. So it doesn't really matter whether you're hearing I'm not talking about recent news, even though I'm speaking about that something that happened in Los Angeles last Monday, but it doesn't matter because it happened in San Francisco the week before and it happened in Chicago the other day, and it's going to happen in a city near you tomorrow. What happened? Well, there's this place called the Westfield Century City Mall. When I lived in Los Angeles, my wife and I were there often, you know, certainly twice a month. It was a nice Mall. It has stores that were the sort of stores we needed and we tended to patronize so Century City Mall, Westfield Century City Mall. Just off Pico Boulevard in West Los Angeles near Westwood. What happened is nine guys came rushing into the Gucci store if your own mind I've never bought a Gucci thing in my life. I'm not likely to. But I understand there are people for whom it's important and it's significant and may even be good quality. I have absolutely no idea but I do know it's expensive. Nine guys rush into the Gucci store at the Westfield Century City Mall in West Los Angeles, nine of them and they take their time they fill up everything, they take everything off the shelves. And everybody stands and looks. They didn't brandish any weapons they didn't need to because they knew what the routine is already. And then they ran out. And if you see it online, the security guys sort of strolls. Remember the word I used earlier in the show amble he ambled to watch them disappearing down the center of the shopping mall. The same day, that same day, about 50 miles south of that shopping mall, in a town in Orange County called Irvine again, you know, an upper-end shopping center, a jewelry store, right upper and upper skirt, upscale jewelry store, three guys rush in and help themselves and walk out with $900,000 worth of jewels, watches, jewelry, and so on.
Daniel Lapin 16:51
You know what a reality denier is? A reality denier is somebody who thinks it's a good idea to stop punishing criminals, who thinks it's a good idea to install George Soros-recommended district attorneys who will not prosecute crime, if it is committed by select groups of Americans. And they just won't they won't prosecute a crime and a reality than I as somebody who thinks you can go ahead, stop punishing crime, stop catching crime stop treating crime as the serious problem it is. And it's not going to result in a whole lot more of that very crime. A reality denier believes that in the interests of whatever kind of justice you think it is, you can stop prosecuting crime, because it's just the rich people. And it's just the insurance companies are left to pay. But meanwhile, these poor people suffering from the the policies of evil governments, and these poor people are just trying to live and get enough food to eat and like Gucci bags and so on. A reality denier is somebody who thinks that you can do all those things, stop punishing crime, stop treating criminals Seriously, stop having police enforcement, and that this will not result in conditions that make it impossible for human beings to live. That's a reality denier.
Daniel Lapin 18:41
Another reality denier is that you can take money from some people by aggressive taxation. And you can give it to other more favored groups in the form of welfare payments and the many, many, many different kinds of welfare payments, and that this will in no way reduce the economic productivity of that society. So in other words, redistribution. You can take money from those who produce it, and give it to those who consume it. And it's not going to have a bad effect on society. That is a reality denier. A reality denier is somebody who sees no difference between producers and parasites. It's no difference at all. That's a reality denier. a reality denier believes that the government can print money by the bucketload and that the government will go ahead and just distribute all this money that it produces. In the form of forgiven student loans and in this form of COVID payments, and that a government can do all that, and this will not debase the currency through inflation, there would be a reality denier, okay? That's what a reality denier is. Another reality denier believes that what's been happening at Texas Children's Hospital in Houston, Texas, is perfectly natural and perfectly normal. As a matter of fact, it's because of various puberty blockers and other hormone treatments that were given to children as young as 11. That the Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton, launched an official investigation in the spring of 2023, saying that children are not to be treated as science experiments. And the state legislator got the votes to pass a bipartisan bill that would outlaw so-called gender-affirming care for minors. And one of the things that's been happening there is that one of the providers a Dr. Richard Roberts, apparently, is, is treating these transgender patients, these very young transgender patients. And what is being reported by City Journal and other places is that many of these young children who are just easily being subjected to serious treatment for so-called Gender disorder, they have serious mental health issues. Some are autistic, they've had suicide attempts, they're depressed, they're on anxiety medication, they have a disability of some kind. And nonetheless, off they go with bringing about these really scary changes. And a reality denier thinks that's wonderful. Okay, and I think it's important to try and get that clear. Now you're getting a sense of what a reality denier is, right? So you want another example of what a reality denier is? Sure. So Oregon Health and Science University, which is a public teaching hospital in downtown Portland. Well, they have a program led by a surgeon who calls himself his Blair Peters, he calls himself his I'm a queer surgeon, whatever that means. And he wears neon pink hair. And he specializes in and I'm not going to tell you what these specific surgeries are. Suffice it to say that they are surgeries that tamper with the genitals of men and women in an ah, well, let's just leave it at that. Blair Peters specializes in and I'll give you the names of the surgeries, vaginoplasty, phalloplasty and non binary surgeries, which remove all the general genitals entirely. And this surgeon is come up with a robot which basically mechanically castrates male patients in under the illusion that he's going to be able to give them female genitalia. Business is booming. I gotta tell you down in downtown Portland, Oregon. They handle two patients a day with their robot-assisted machine. And they got a 12 to 18 month waiting list. And they're as busy as could be doing all of this. Listen, you're talking about reality deniers. There is a paper, there's a scientific paper called overview of surgical techniques in gender-affirming genital surgery. And I'll spare you the most gruesome aspects of it. But I would like to read to you the abstract and I'm only going to read the first three lines of the abstract. And they're related. E J. Gen. Tau unary. surgeries are vitally important in the management of gender dysphoria. vaginoplasty, phalloplasty and their associated surgeries, help patients achieve their main goal of aligning their body and their mind These surgeries warrant careful adherence, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera, because there are many, many complications. And the next few lines talk about all the horrifying complications that can result from the surgery.
Daniel Lapin 25:12
But what I want to focus on is aligning their body and mind isn't that extraordinary? So think of, you know, during the 80s, we saw the arrival and the spread of eating disorders, mostly among young women. And an anorexia became, if you like, the trance of its day in the ad, it's because it was the most fashionable thing. And, and I know that, that it's, it's been deathly dangerous, many young women have died. I mean, this is no joke. However, that also doesn't mean that it is a real physical disease. What it means is that something goes wrong with a person's mind. And they then act in a very dangerous and destructive way. And so what did they do? Back in the 80s, when anorexia was beginning to boom and into the 90s. And so you've got young women believing that they're overweight and too large, and they would start tormenting their bodies, depriving their bodies of food and all kinds of things, in order to get rid of all this disgusting, gross extra weight they have. When you actually looked at a young woman suffering from aggravated anorexia. She looked perfectly normal had a fine figure, no problem. So what did surgeons do? Did surgeons come in and graft on big huge stomachs onto these girls to bring their bodies into alignment with their sad and sick minds? No, of course not. They put them into the charge of psychiatrists in the hope of helping them see that they have to understand they're perfectly healthy and perfectly normal. So in other words, I understand. Aligning body and mind is really helpful. For as long as I wanted to be a ballet dancer, my mind and my body was simply out of alignment, and it was just painful and miserable. For as long as I wanted to be a professional footballer, I wanted to be a linebacker. It was terrible because my body and my mind were not in alignment. So what do you do? Do you inflict irreparable surgical damage on the body in order to make it conformed to the mind? Or do you first try and adjust the mind to make it accept the body as it is? Not even a question. That's pretty obvious, right? And so I'll read the three lines from the abstract have the overview of surgical techniques in gender-affirming genital surgery again, gender-related genital unary surgeries are vitally important in the management of gender dysphoria, vaginoplasty, phalloplasty, and the associated surgeries, help patients achieve their main goal of aligning their body and mind. And I'm wondering, is why do none of the four doctors involved in the study?
Daniel Lapin 28:33
Say, wait a sec. Why should we do these unbelievably destructive and mutilating surgeries? On men and women with healthy bodies? When all we really have to do is work on their minds, we have to help them understand and get to know what they are? Yes, we do have to bring a lot we have to bring body and mind into alignment. But do we do it by irreparable damage to the body? Or do we start off with the mind? And it's weird to me that in every area, whether it was anorexia, or the little guy wanting to be a linebacker, or the big guy wanting to be a ballet dancer, you help them by talking with them and helping them come to see that they have to change their mind about what they really are. You really aren't a linebacker on the NFL team. It's just not going to be that's not who you are. You don't embark on surgery right away unless, well, unless you are a reality denier. That's right. Being a reality denier allows all of these things to happen. All right, that's what we have to understand.
Daniel Lapin 29:54
And it really is very helpful to look back and go back to the 80s And and see how frequently mostly young university students, young women began to speak about having anorexia. This year, you may remember happened at the same time, that Karen Carpenter that the carpenters, the beautiful singing group from in 1983, she died. And from that point, like anorexia got this huge boost. And a particular professor who taught in New York colleges in the mid-80s writes that these 18-year-old students were not disturbing the underweight. they aspired to be anorexic anorexia was a prestige diagnosis. Now that is very interesting. So yeah, look, you've got to start thinking in terms of gender dysphoria, a little bit like anorexia, because the incredible increase in people diagnosed with gender dysphoria, in keeping with the guidelines of the diagnostic and statistical manual of the mental health profession. That increase has been so dramatic, that you'd have to say that there's been mass poisoning of the American water supply or something must be going on or else. Yes, it is a prestige diagnosis. Both neuroses are clearly communicable gender dysphoria and anorexia. This presser writes, ever since a preoccupation with thinness took off in the 60s, eating disorders soared, making the more recent insistence that anorexia is more of a heritable genetic proclivity than a cultural contagion very dubious, and that was what he's saying is there was an attempt to suggest that anorexia was inherited and genetic. And so he says, No, it's a cultural contagion. It's spread. It's like a virus that spreads spiritually. From the 70s onwards, an accelerating number of young women who got the idea to express their discontent through debilitating hunger, from lavish media coverage. He said since 2010, the number of teenage girls referred to the Tavistock Gender Identity Development Service increased by 5,000%. Making claims of a purely genetic explanation of gender dysphoria. Ridiculous these are social contagions. So anyway, be aware that is to buy into this stuff is to be a reality denier.
Daniel Lapin 33:07
Justin Trudeau Prime Minister of Canada just a reality denier Deluxe, he's like really a fantastically ardent reality denier. How do we know well listen to the tweet that he sent out last week. I think it was Hi everyone. Sophia Sophia's his wife's name seems perfectly nice lady Sophia, and I would like to share the fact that after many meaningful and difficult conversations, we have made the decision to separate That's right. Justin Trudeau Prime Minister of Canada is getting divorced. From the little amount of time I devoted to look into it, it seems his wife initiated that she wants nothing more to do with him. And I think in that she probably shares a great deal with many Canadians. But at any rate, he continues his tweet. As always, we remain a close family with deep love and respect for each other and for everything we have built and will continue to build. My dear happy warriors. When you get a divorce, that's the end of a family. A family is when a man and a woman marry. That's the start of a family and then they have children ever family. When they get divorced. That breaks up the family. That's why divorce is called a family wrecker. A family breaker-upper. That's what divorce is, it terminates the family. Now, any normal person who understands reality gets that. But reality deniers will look you in the eye and tell you we're getting divorced. But my wife and I are dedicated to our family. And we will continue loving and respecting everyone in our family and will continue to build our family. It's madness. Complete and utter lunacy. He then writes for the well-being of our children, we ask that you respect our and their privacy. What on earth does that mean? It's another part of reality denial. But am I violating his request for privacy by talking about it? Well, hello, when you're the Prime Minister of Canada, you don't get privacy. That's why you get the big bucks. That's why you get the limousines that's why you get the respect. That's why you get from many the adulation, but what you don't get to ask for is privacy. Sorry. That's not how the world really works. It just doesn't. So. So I really want you to become aware that reality denial is a genuine status condition. It should be in the DSM five, or six. But it isn't an A won't be reality denial, recognize it around you. And it is easier to cope with. Once you know it's there and what it is.
Daniel Lapin 36:03
Now I have to tell you about a letter that I've received in which I said I would answer on the podcast. And that's exactly what I intend doing. The letter's from a guy Ryan and Ryan is not a reality denier. But he does need guidance. He was wise enough to listen to a happy warrior, who is a mutual friend of both he and me. Both Ryan and me are friendly with his happy warrior. And she advised him to ask his question to me. That was the first step. Now, is he wise enough to hear and understand my answer? That I don't know. We'll we'll, we'll come to to know that eventually. And I will let you know. But here is Ryan's question, if you don't mind. Dear Rabbi Lapin. I've been asked by my friend and he mentions her name to write you about my life choice to be a MGTOW. Now, I'll fill you in just a little bit. For those of you who have led admirably sheltered lives. You may not know what a MGTOW is MGTOW, it stands for men going their own way. men going their own way if you've heard of the red pill movement. But as if you heard of insoles, involuntary celibate guys. To be honest, I don't know how big a movement this is. It's all over the internet. That is for sure. It's all over YouTube. It's all over the place. I don't know that that necessarily means it's a big thing. But it is there. And Ryan has been incredibly influenced by that. But let his letter speak for itself. My life choice to be a MGTOW. As a rule masechtos tend to keep ourselves to ourselves. A MGTOW is a man that chooses to be sexless for various reasons. I already know you think we're losers who can't get a woman. How well my listeners know me. But that's not necessarily true in this case. I'm not necessarily sure that his loser Ryan, I think is quite a young guy.
Daniel Lapin 38:27
I really know you think I already know you think we're losers can't get a woman and in some cases, you're not wrong. But more often, it's just that we don't want one. Get it? That's what he's saying. So he's a MGTOW, and he's going his own way. He doesn't want anything to do with women. And he's going to explain more. Here he goes. The Tinder economy is a concept created by online dating. When access to people is opened up, there is a disparity between men and women. 80% choose 10% of men it means 80% of women choose 10% of men. This leaves 90% of men fighting for the bottom 20% of women. There are two effects created by the Tinder economy. The top 80% of women are all sharing the same small pool of men. This means they are competing, and do so by having sex with more of these men. The term for this is the muddy pool. The bottom 20% of women all have multiple men at any given time fighting for their attentions. I'm not going to comment on this just yet but I will of course come back to the to explain just why Ryan is so completely wrong, but he continues I'm an average guy. Average in height average and looks average and intellect average and physical ability average in earning income 80% of women in America earn more than the national average. If I attempt to date in the muddy pool, then I'm left with a woman who has had sex with multiple men who are also cheating on her cheating as a way of life for her. I don't want to bet to be my life. So I do not date from the muddy pool. If I date a bottom 20% woman, then she's a 304. Because Ben have lined up for her and she gets her pick, I don't want a 304 You're probably wondering what a 304 is. And if you have lived an admirably sheltered life, you don't know. And God bless you for that. Sadly, I do know what it is. Do you remember those old calculators where the numbers were shown on seven segment displays a seven segment display is dividing up the number eight, into the seven lines that make it so you put down, you know, you make a square of lines, one line on each side, that's four lines, and then add on another three on top to make another square. So you've now got two squares. And by turning on and off the various segments, those are in those Nixie tubes or in those LEDs, you turn them on. So if you turn the two vertical on the left plus the bottom, plus the bottom one on the right plus the crossbar, you have a six. If you if you do the top bar, the vertical, the top vertical, the bottom vertical, and the bottom crossbar, and then the crossbar in the middle, you have a three, you get the idea, right? How do you do a four? Well, you have to do the top left vertical, the bottom left vertical, the crossbar and the two right verticals. And there, you've got the closest resemblance to a four that you can make out of the elements that make up a number eight. Well, a 304 is if you enter three o four on an old fashioned calculator, and you turn it upside down and read it from the other side, you reading 403. And that's if you now imagine it to be letters that four looks exactly like an H zero looks like an O and the three looks exactly like an E. And I think you get the picture there. So 304, you can tell Ryan has been enormously influenced by the internet, because that is the kind of nomenclature you you find on the internet all the time. So you find that a bottom 20% woman then she's a three or four, because men have lined up for her she gets a big I don't want a 304. he continues:L
Daniel Lapin 43:01
1/3 of married women in America admit to cheating on their husbands. Most commonly they say it's because they don't find their husband exciting. So they remain married for the benefits but cheat consistently. This is the product of the tinder economy. Tinder is a dating website. He continues at the epicenter divorces in America initiated by the wife. So if I do get married and she cheats on me, then she also gets half my money and custody of my children. If I'm building a business and I have a foundation built and she takes half my foundation, then that's all my future wiped out. She doesn't steal my paycheck. But robs my potential. All this is after cheating on me. The odds of a marriage working in my favor are almost zero. And his last paragraph is I could get a woman if I want to. But is she a woman worth having. Part of being a MGTOW is choosing not to have sex. The longer a man goes without sex, the less he desires it. By the way that is the one true and accurate sentence in this entire letter I read. That is true. The longer a man goes without sex, the less he desires it. Mag tiles just choose to focus on ourselves and our businesses rather than some 304 H O E or get it. It's a better life. We have our friends and our businesses and our own futures. We choose this life because we are worth more than the women in the dating pool who disdain us. Call us boring cheat on us and don't respect us.
Daniel Lapin 44:34
Well, well, well. Okay, um, now we go back to the beginning and I explain just how dreadfully wrong you are Ryan. And I do hope that this is useful not only to you, but to any other men who have been seduced by Internet thinking. You got to be independent guys. And you've got to you You can't buy into everything you read online. And I'll explain. Now Ryan is start off by saying that he chooses to be sexless. He says, I know you think we're losers who can't get a woman. In some cases you're not wrong, but more often and so we don't want one. Okay, Ryan, to choose to be sexless. Because you are doing something else I'm thinking here in terms of there are priests who choose to be celibate. Now that I get, I understand it. I don't agree with it. It's not part of my faith. I don't think it's ideal. But I do understand it. And I even admire it in certain ways. But that's not where you are. You are saying that you choose to have no relationship with a woman. Because it can only go badly for you. And in that sense, I think you're very, very wrong. And, and that brings us to the next aspect of your error. You see what's wrong there, Ryan is that it's a little bit like somebody saying, and I realize it's not a perfect analogy, because there's an action involved in amputating an arm. But somebody who says, you know, I'm really okay, without an arm, there are a lot of disadvantages to an arm, it takes longer to get dressed, you got to put two arms through the arm poles in your jacket or your shirt. And it's just not really necessary. So you mentioned somebody who maybe lost an arm in an accident, has the opportunity to get a replacement arm, and he's, you know, I'm good, I don't need an arm, I'm fine without it. And I would say to him, You are unnecessarily depriving yourself of part of the richness of living. Now, secondly, you are actually going to be handicapped in that way. It's not as if operating without norm is without consequence. That isn't correct, there is consequence. And just as choosing to be Onlus is not a decision without consequences, negative consequences. So is choosing to be sexless, not a decision without consequence. And particularly at your stage of life, Ryan, you are depriving yourself of a source of energy and creativity and masculinity, all of which are nurtured by a proper relationship with a woman, you are choosing to deprive yourself of those benefits. And I am not alone among people who easily can identify individuals such as yourself. In other words, there really is a noticeable effect on your being.
Daniel Lapin 48:26
And it's not a good effect. But okay, let's let's move on. Your next paragraph talks about the Tinder economy. And the fact that on Tinder, the majority of women are saying our swiping rights, meaning they accept the overtures from only a small percentage of the men. And whatever the actual numbers are. Nobody really knows for sure whether Tinder releases accurate stats or not as it is in doubt. But either way, it makes perfect sense because in one way or another because obviously, there are more men out searching for women, then there are women out there searching for men. You don't need to be a data scientist to know that simple reality. And so obviously, there are many, many, many more men than women on these dating apps, even though shamefully many of these apps conjure up fake women in order to give men the illusion that there are actually a lot of women on the site. But the reality, of course, is that yeah, there are a limited number of women on the site, and they can afford to be very picky. This is very much like what happens on university campuses where there used to be very few women and a lot of men. So it happened that the women were able to pick the best of men, which they happily did. And they were able to maintain their standards, and they were able to not submit to pressure to do things they didn't want to do. But then when the numbers changed on campuses, and it quickly became to be six girls for every four boys, and then it became seven to three. Well, what happened now is that the girls had to compete among themselves for a very limited pool of guys. And the results for the women were not good at all, as you can imagine. So when you speak about the tinder economy, meaning that that Tinder dating world. Yeah, I think that's, that's a crazy place. For any guy who's looking for a serious and meaningful relationship to go. It's completely ridiculous. But here, Ryan is the monumental fallacy in your argument. In a way, what you are doing is falling into the trap of Marxism, and woke ism. Basically, the trap loved by reality deniers, which is that all women and all men are lumped together. And all people with black skin are lumped together and all people with white skin all lumped together. And the absurdity of this is so manifest that it can only appeal to a reality denier. The notion that all men fall into this unified category. It's absurd. I recently heard somebody claim that because 94% of the people that of the Americans that have been shot by policemen are men. This is this shows that there is a war on men. No, it's because men commit and are more involved in crime than women by that ratio. It's as simple as that. And violent crime is predominantly the domain of men. And so yes, the people who end up in violent confrontations with police are invariably men Period, end of story. That's all there is to it. But the notion that this now is of relevance to all men, right? The idea say a very large number of men have never had any interaction whatsoever with the criminal justice system. And the notion that they are somehow also under attack. Every time you start lumping together in this fashion, it's a big mistake. One of the things that data scientists are very careful about is exactly how they do classify groups. And when it is done, it is done as carefully and as meticulously and as precisely as possible. And seldom do they draw rampant wild and wide conclusions from such groupings. So yes, Ryan, in the small universe, are a relatively small universe of men who depend upon the app called Tinder for their meeting of women. Yeah, I guess. I guess the pickings are slim. I wouldn't be at all surprised. I get that. Are there some guys who do well there as you suggest, yeah, probably. But in terms of what I'm talking about, and what I think you are, and what I hope you're talking about is not a meaningless dalliance, but finding a woman with whom to marry and build a life together. Why on earth would you be looking on Tinder? And so the mistake you're making Ryan is, is assuming that what is true in that little dark and sorted world of Tinder is true also in the big wide world out there. And so that pretty much dispenses with your whole second paragraph, starting with the tinder economy as a concept created by... Yeah. But assuming that that's the whole world of male-female relationships is preposterous. Nothing could be further from the truth. Okay. Then we go to your third paragraph and you started by saying I'm an average guy average height average looks average intellect, the average physical ability, average and earned income, etc, etc. Okay. I don't think that one knows what average is. On average height for men, five foot 10. Okay, fine. Okay, average and looks. These again are all internet terminologies, you know, average and hide average and looks. These things can be very subjective, particularly since, while men may be looking primarily- not all men, but many men looks wise, that's not necessarily the starting point for women, things are different. So for you to say, your average in looks average and intellect, like compared to who, what I, I really dismiss the first two sentences of that whole thing. And then you say if I attempt to date in the muddy pool, I'm left with a woman who's had Alright, fine. I've already explained. If you date in Tinder, you deserve what you get. But why on earth? Would you be there? What's that all about? And it makes absolutely no sense.
Daniel Lapin 56:04
Do you have no friends? Do you have no married friends? Do you have no relatives? Do you have no aunts and uncles? Do you have no cousins? Do you have nobody at all? Who could be looking out for you for a really nice girl? Or is it possible? I hope this is not the case. But I have to acknowledge it because I don't know you. Is it possible that in spite of your declarations that you are average in all areas, and Ryan, heaven's sake, I'm not trying to hurt you. I'm really not trying to be mean or nasty, or make you feel bad in any way at all. But at the same time, I don't believe you want me to massage you with warm butter. I think you wrote to me because you want to do hear the reality. You wanted to hear how the world really works. And in that sense, I hope you're not a reality denier, but you certainly know that I am not a reality denier at all.
Daniel Lapin 56:56
And so it's is it possible that you have not yet made of yourself the sort of man that your relatives and friends would say, hey, you know what, there's this girl My sister went to school with, she's really lovely. And I think the two of you would hit it off. Is it possible that you haven't yet made of yourself the person that tends to encourage other people to say, Hey, I know a nice go for you. That's very important. Because if if the reputation you've acquired and the impression you radiate to others, is being in substantive and exploitative and a player as they say, then yeah, such you know, people would not want to introduce you to any girls that they thought highly of. So that is really a big question. As far as tinder is concerned, let's just dismiss it. It's not part of this conversation. You right, as if that defines the reality in the world today. And in this sense, I fear you are unduly influenced by the internet. And I see that in a number of places in your letter that give me that clue? I don't believe that that is the case. And the Internet is a narrow part of life. It is certainly not all of life. And the you really must get rid of the idea that what happens on Tinder defines reality it really, really doesn't. Then you say ADA presented voices in America initiated by the wife. I have no idea where you dug that statistic up other than some unsubstantiated website. That's simply not true. There are discussions they're trying to get key. I'm sure you understand, Ryan, the enormous difficulty in trying to establish that number accurately, divorces initiated by the wife. But what does that mean? What it certainly doesn't mean is that the very first time the legal system hears about a divorce, it's from the women ad and it's simply not true. Now, what happens is when people are interviewed, sometimes and more often than not, a man will say, you know, when if you said even So whose idea was to get divorced, he'll say my wife's, but she was simply the first person to bring it out, as very often is the case women talk more than men. They communicate more effectively, men's default behavior when they're feeling hurt, or deprived in certain ways, is to retreat into a glacial silence. Women don't women want to talk? And I think you recognize that in the history of humanity. I don't think any husband has ever said to his wife, honey, you know, we really don't do enough talking. Why don't we sit down and have a talk? Right, but it the other way around. Sure. Our something that strikes dread into the heart of men is when their wife say says, Honey, can we talk? I have something I have to discuss with you. I bet that scares men. So what happens is that men create an environment where divorce is increasingly likely and inevitable. And then it's the woman who says, you know, I don't know if we can carry on like this. I think we're heading towards the double. Oh, look, who brought it up first. That's where this is coming from. Okay, in terms of wanting to bail out of a marriage, okay, the idea that it is more women, it suits the reality denier narrative, because they want to say, see, look, what a good job we've done in getting women economic equity. And so now they're able to get away from these abusive marriages. Ryan, it's simply not true. That's not a picture that is in any way accurate of reality. So please, it's meaningless to tell me 88% of divorce in America in the shed about it's simply, it's not real. The bottom line is there are a lot of divorces. I agree with you on that no question. And if divorce happens, and it can go badly, will the woman take the children? And will she get a substantial portion of your assets? Very probably in most cases? Is that right? Of course not. It's just part of the general and unfairness in certain ways towards men, I get that.
Daniel Lapin 1:01:48
But your marriage doesn't have to be part of that statistic. Let me explain what I mean. within about three miles of where we live, there is a woman who has seven children, just like my wife does. excepting that her seven children were fathered by seven different men, none of whom are still in her life, or in the lives of the children they created. My wife has been married, and has been the best wife any man could hope for, for a few decades already. That woman has never been married. But she has temporarily lived with many different men. My wife has been part of an economic enterprise that has consistently provided for our family. That other woman three miles from here, who also has seven children. She hasn't worked for 20 years, she receives government payments. My wife has drunk alcohol one time in her life since we're married, and has never had any drugs. Enough said right? I don't have to tell you about this other woman I'm describing. And now what happens is you look at official statistics. And and they say a half, you look at my wife and you look at this one they say half of women with seven children are suffering financial poverty. Well, wait a sec. Wait a second, this this is not right. You what you have to do is you have to classify it my wife, with many wives in the religious Jewish community and many wives in the religious Christian community, and annual and then say now what percentage of these of these mothers have seven children are suffering? And the answer is pretty much nobody. And now you have to compare that other woman with with other women who have seven children from seven different men and who live on government welfare, and then you can make a conclusion about them. In other words, lumping together apples and oranges and then deriving results from your statistics is complete nonsense. The reality is America is no longer one nation under God. America is now two completely separate disparate nations. And there is a mighty chasm that cuts through like a canyon between them. These are two separate Americas. One America is an America that believes that Judeo-Christian bible based values of vital for survival. And the other America is made up of people who believe that Judeo-Christian values are horrible obstructions to progress. These are two completely incompatible views. And these are two completely incompatible groups of Americans. And so no longer is America, one nation under God, America is two nations at war with one another, occupying the same real estate, a recipe for disaster. And there are very obvious and inevitable consequences to these two worldviews that are at war with one another. One of them produces a catalogue of lamentable pathologies, and the other tends to produce far more successful living.
Daniel Lapin 1:06:05
That's just how it is. It's the reality. And so to to speak now about all these divorces, and you don't have much chance? Well, yes, if you want to put yourself into the tinder world, then yeah, I guess all kinds of things could happen. But why would you do that? Only a tiny minority of men in America meet their wives on Tinder. And by the way, there are other dating sites on the Internet, some of which are okay, because they don't encourage that kind of behavior. And so the odds of a marriage working in your favor are almost zero. That's what you write to me really? Why? Why not just choose to be part of America, and I'm assuming you're in America, because you keep quoting America, why not choose to be part of America, where the marriage rate is close to 100%. Really, it really is close, or the divorce rate in America is about 50%? Well, it isn't actually that's lumping together second and third marriages with first. And obviously, they're more a higher proportion of second marriages divorce, and a higher, even higher proportion of third marriages. The reason is, because it's easier to do something the second time after you've done it the first time. If you're on a diet, and you stick on the diet, and you resist running down to the refrigerator in the middle of the night and eating a plate full of chocolate eclairs, then that's great. But if you break it, and you do do that, the next night, it's actually easier to do it again. And the third night, it's even easier. Whenever you do something, it becomes easy. And you know this from exercise and from for good and bad. The more you do something, the more accustomed you are to it. You yourself said it earlier. Right when I quote you and you said the longer a man goes without sex, the less citizens That's right. And so the the the the the notion that divorce is 50% not true. What happens is in second marriages, it's pretty high because having done at once it's easier to take recourse in divorce. Third, lump all our statistic together and then for the whole lot of them the figures about 42% as best as we can find out. And that means that it doesn't mean that everyone in America who gets married has a 42% chance of getting divorced, married for the first time has a 42% No doesn't mean that it you first got to decide which America you in because there's one America where your chances of getting divorced are low, very, very low. There's another part of America where it's very, very high. And the average you average everyone together, it's about 42%. But that's not your finger. Your finger depends on the kind of marriage you make and build. Come on. You get that Ryan. And all your letters doing is throwing at me these internet stats all based on on Tinder dating, it doesn't work. That's not reality. And so the odds of a marriage working out in my favor are almost zero not true. If you go one direction, then they probably are pretty close to zero. If you go the other direction, they're pretty close to 100. But there isn't such a thing as the average person in this context. And then you go on you say I could get a woman if I want to but issue a woman worth having. Well, that's your choice. And are the real question I have to ask myself and I mean, no disrespect to you because I don't know you're told but looking at you just as the average guy the way you described yourself to me, I have to ask yourself, ask You Are you a man worth having? That's an important question. Because if you are, then you could get a woman worth having also. But if you're not, then don't be surprised. You continue. And we're on the last paragraph Now, part of being a MGTOW is choosing not to have sex. Yeah. As I compared it earlier, choosing to be one on a one on man. I don't doubt you can survive, but you're handicapping yourself terribly in terms of thriving. And that's why when I speak of the five F's, one of them is family, and part of family is a rewarding and joyful and passionate sex life. It's not only a pleasure, it's not only a natural part of life, but it makes you a better man. It's an important thing. And wives know and understand this. And that's why being married to a wise woman is so wonderful. Longer man goes without sex, the less he desires it absolutely true. But that's the only true sentence in your letter, my friend, MGTOWs just choose to focus on ourselves and on our businesses. Let me tell you something, my friend, your self and your business, I handicapped if you don't have a wife? Why? Well, first of all, just in terms of health, everybody knows, married men not only live longer, they live far healthier, married man. I'm quoting you genuine medical statistics, married men recover from major illness and surgery far more reliably and quickly and durably than single men do. Single men also suffer from more of these pathologies. As far as your business is concerned, having a great wife is a huge asset and building a business. And, and I can explain this in in very simple terms, as I said earlier in the show, and making money is dependent on having a lot of people who know you, like you and trust you. And in terms of people knowing you and liking you, a wife is a colossal asset, it's hard. It's hard to adequately measure how much of an asset a wife is, you are hugely hindered. Because socially, and it's out of socially engagements that business very often results. But socially, people tend to get together in couples, which is one of the reasons that a lot of single people who decide to stay single, suddenly find themselves miserable as more and more of their friends get married. Because they had already well, if you were still hanging out together, no, you actually want. Because if, if you're a woman, and little by little all, you're the majority of your women friends get married, they're now spending a lot more time with their husbands. And when they do socialize, they'll tend to socialize with their husbands with other couples. And so you as a MGTOW are left out in the cold regardless of what Red Pill literature tells you. And regardless of what MGTOW websites tell you, don't be misled by this stuff, my friend, you really must use your own judgment in your own discernment. And do your own research. Don't just buy into the stuff. And, and so to say that you just choose to focus on yourselves in your business. Good luck to your power. Because I wouldn't bet on you. Seriously. And I'll tell you now, if I'm going to invest in a startup, and let's say two startups come to me and they're both equally in all ways, you know, everything is everything is the same. The only difference is the principal in one case is a single guy and the principal in the other case, is a happily married guy. Do you really think I and most other serious people would spend more than a millisecond deciding who to go with single guys are? Well, you get the idea. We are much more likely to invest in a company being run or started or handled or led or managed by a happily married guy. So telling me that you're going to be womanliness, and you're just going to focus on yourself and your business? Well, I don't hold out much hope for yourself because you really need a wife to stay healthy. And I don't hold out much hope for your business because you really will find it very, very difficult. Unless you are a startup wizard. You learn that you're you're right able to do things that are very rare. But in the long story of economic development in America and throughout the West, married men outperform single men hugely. So he says, I just choose focus on ourselves and our business rather than some unworthy woman. It's a better life. Actually, no, you may tell yourself that Ryan. But if it was a better life, more men would do it. And the men who do it wouldn't need to have to reassure themselves how wonderful it is to be a mag Tao, and to form little Insell groups to reassure one another. Now,
Daniel Lapin 1:15:38
it's not about a life Ryan, it really isn't. And your last couple of sentences, we have our friends and our businesses and our own future as well, as I said to you, you have your friends, but it's a limited duration there because your friends are getting married, unless you are only going to restrict yourself only to friends in the MGTOW community such as it is, I don't think so. And your businesses will have discussed that. And we focus on our own futures, you don't have a future, my friend. That's what I'm trying to tell you. One of the great gifts, that having a woman in your life brings you his children. And one of the great benefits of children is you develop an intuitive sense of the future. And very few things are more valuable in business, then a strong intuitive sense of future. You denying yourself that. And so your letter is really full of lies, and intentional. I'm not saying you try to lie to me, but it's full of lies. We have our friends and our businesses and our futures. No, you do not. We choose this life because well worth more than the women in the dating pool. Who does? Dana's? Yeah, if you're going to talk about the dating pool, like what is that Tinder? What is the dating pool? Have you ever stopped in at your local church? Have you ever spoken to the pastor and said, I'd like you to get to know me because I'm hoping to be able to meet my future wife? Have you ever sat down and said that to anybody? Seriously? But as long as you don't about the dating pool? I'm not sure I know why any person of substance would want to introduce you to a great girl. I don't know. We choose this life because we are worth more than the women in the dating but I'm not sure you are, who disdain us. Call us boring and cheat on us. Hey, if a hat fits. And they don't respect us, let me tell you something. Ryan. Respect is earned. Respect is commanded, not demanded. I listen to my accent. I lost my accent there for a moment. Funny. Makes more sense. So when you think about often said in English, I say you can or you can't. And so you can tell which one I'm saying. Because it's not just whether you pick up the tea at the end. In in American, it's can and can't. It's not always that easy. So the the point goes to me when it comes to can and can't demand command as what I should have said anyway. When you whine that these women don't respect us. My first response is, Well, are you a man who commands respect? And Ryan? At the end of the day? That is the main question you have to ask yourself. Oh, dear, I hope I very much hope that I'll make sure that you hear that Ryan and I'd like to if you feel like it. Let me know how you react. That's tough medicine. I didn't massage you with warm butter. That's for sure. That was tough medicine without doubt. But it was the truth. It was how the world really works. And it was the key to improving your life in big ways. All right, ladies and gentlemen, and Ryan, everybody. Every single happy warrior. The website you know Rabbi Daniel lapin.com. Subscribe. Here on the platform. You listen to this on. And until next week, I want to wish you a week of growth in your family and in your finances, in your faith, in your fitness and in your friendships. Onwards and upwards. God bless. I'm Rabbi Daniel Lapin.
