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The Rabbi Daniel Lapin Podcast
Episode: Get Your Life on Track Before It Is Too Late To Fix Mistakes
Date: 05/11/2026 Length: 46:47
Daniel Lapin 0:00
Greetings, Happy Warriors and welcome to the Rabbi Daniel Lapin show where I your rabbi, reveal how the world really works. And one of the ways in which the world really works is that we all need to figure out what the road map is that we are going to use for our lives. Are we going to follow a philosophy, a world view, a religion or a faith, or are we going to do what the majority of the people around us do, or are we going to listen to experts in one field or another? And here's the funny thing, most of us kind of get it figured out. The trouble is that for many of us, it takes too long, and by the time we figured it out, we've already made all the wrong decisions. And this is one of the reasons that the Bible says in Hebrew, the words are mipne, Seva, takum before the aged person, you should rise now that doesn't only mean that you should give your seat up to an older person on the bus or the subway, but it also means, metaphorically, that we respect we deliver additional and special respect to people who are old for no other reason than that they're old. You know why? Because most old people have it figured out. It's sometimes coupled with deep sadness and profound regret. Because what can be worse than finally figuring it out towards the end of one's life, after it is way too late to make any corrections or to fix any of the mistakes that were made far earlier. I must tell you that in the coaching that I have been doing, probably for several decades, for many years, I was doing it as the Rabbi of a growing and vital congregation. And then after that, I was doing it professionally as a coach. And the reason that I was doing it was because, well, let me tell you what the most common thing I've heard from clients again and again and again. I think it's, without question, the most common comment I get. It's also the most common comment I get to this podcast, and that is in one form or another. People write to me or say to me, where were you when I was making these mistakes 20 years ago. Where were you when I was making these mistakes 30 years ago? And it's not meant as an indictment of me, obviously, because I was right here delivering this ancient wisdom to those who were asking for it. But it is a very natural reaction, right? When you hear something about, you know, how you should have dated, and how you should have picked a spouse, and you hear it after years later, where you had a problematic marriage, maybe a divorce, and you're trying to do something else a little different. It's perfectly natural to say, Where were you when I was having to make this decision so many years ago? I really could have used you back then, and I really do understand that. Totally get it. And so the areas that that I think most profoundly are impacted. There are five main areas, but the two areas in which people most frequently say to me, when we're in the process of coaching and we're going through what needs to be done, or maybe they're discussing the future of a child they have, a child is growing up, and they're trying to help their child not make the mistakes they made. The problem is, we are all like this. We'll hear it more easily from a coach we're paying than. We will hear it from a parent somehow or another, that fifth commandment really is something we all struggle with. And ever since you were a little kid, you do remember that your friend's parents were much nicer than your parents, right? They were much more reasonable, they were much more accommodating, they were much less disciplinarian. In fact, you wished you lived with the with your kids, your friends, parents, and of course, the reality there is simply that we, we, we need to be instructed by the fifth commandment to honor our mother and father, because it doesn't come naturally. Why doesn't it come naturally? Because what does come naturally is to resent those to whom we owe something. And you know, people in families know very often that the way to damage family relationships is to lend money. Abraham Lincoln as a wonderful letter he wrote to a brother of his who asked him for a loan. And everybody knows, because when you owe somebody something, you don't feel warmly to him for having helped you. There's a part of our human nature which feels resentful the fact that we needed that help in the first place, and the fact that every time we see them is a constant reminder of our own inadequacy, needing their help, and it takes a remarkable person to be indebted to somebody and to still feel close, warmth, attachment, gratitude, love, appreciation, and all of those good things. So yeah, marriage and money and marriage are really the two areas where I think most people particularly, let me say, in between the ages of 13 and 23 those 10 years, I think we perhaps make the biggest mistakes, and today, I would say, perhaps even extending that throughout the 20s. You know, perhaps it's 13 to 29 are the years in which most serious mistakes are being made in the areas of money and marriage. There is a quite a well known personality who wrote a book on happiness, and he has eight steps to happiness, and I'm just going to touch on two of them. And I don't want to tell you who he is, because he's a nice guy, accepting. I have to identify mistakes in two particular areas he's made, and the two areas of mistakes are, he said that crucial to happiness is who you marry and the profession you choose. And so be very careful that you marry the right person, and be very careful that you choose the right job or work or profession or occupation. And he's half right, but seriously wrong. Where he's half right is that money and marriage are very important aspects of a happy and fulfilling life, no question about it. And as I say when I speak about my five F's, which are the underlying foundation of my entire approach to helping people map their lives and execute on that map, it is family finance, faith, friendship and fitness in no particular order. Family is all marital and maritally related, relationships and finances, everything having to do with money. So those are two very important things he's absolutely right about that. Here's where he's wrong. Did you hear how I said it? The way I said it is how he said it, and that's wrong who you marry and the occupation you choose. Let's look at the second one. First. No, the occupation you choose is not that important, because, first of all, we change occupations, often more and more nowadays than in the past. But yes, there you don't. You're not making a life choice. And the fact is that if you are a school leaver, let's you know, let's imagine you're 18 years old, and you're looking you're trying to decide what job to do, the important thing is to start working, not which, in other words, if you tell me, well, you're going to put off it's taken you a long time to find the right job.
Daniel Lapin 10:00
That's not correct. You may be obeying His, this gentleman's guidance, but you're making a mistake, because the key thing is to get launched while you're working. Opportunities open when you're at home, looking up job sites and looking up advertisements for work, you're not getting anywhere at all. And so I would go as far as to say that for many people, if not most people, let's say you could pick any one. Let's say there are five different starting job opportunities, 1234, and five, and we could watch you through surveillance equipment over the next 10 years and revisit with you in 10 years time. I would say that in the case of the majority of people, where you end up in 10 years time is going to be pretty much the same whether you started in Job, 1234, or five, because it mostly has to do with you, your skills, your attitude, how you interact with people, how you discipline yourself, how you drive yourself, how you continue sharpening your soul, meaning how you continue educating yourself and training yourself, and how you start, keep on improving yourself. And so whether you start off 1234, or five, A, B, C, D or E, you're probably going to end up in pretty much the same place in 10 years time. It just doesn't matter what job you choose. The key thing is getting out there and doing it. And one of the, I think, charming pieces of evidence for what I'm just telling you is that you you know how often you've read biographies, or sometimes they're articles about somebody, maybe it's somebody who's retiring, and very often they say to him, Well, you know, you all your life, you've been doing this job. You know, whatever it is, if you had to do it all over again, and most people always answer the same, if I'd do exactly the same, this has been a wonderful career for me. What everybody just magically chose the right No, these successful people made it the right career. That's exactly what they were doing. So really, if you know, if you're the parent of a, shall we say, a school leaving a young person, and you'd like to get them launched, really, what you want to make sure is that they have really mastered all the, let me call it the spiritual powers of discipline, determination, ambition, ability to get on with people, respect for elders, all the things. And there are many, many more i i should perhaps do a show just on this just listing all the things that you need to make sure that your school leaver knows, or if you're a young person, before you even embark on your first job, search the things that you need to know, those are the avenue to success, and then whether you get a job doing A, B, C, D or E, you're on the road to success, and whichever job you choose has very little bearing on what you will find yourself doing 10 years down the road. What that will be an indication of is how well prepared you were with the spiritual powers of success before you even started on that initial job, right? Really important thing. And again, if you're in the process of building a family, these are ideas, powers, spiritual abilities you want to implant in your children all along and again, that's just not necessarily things you would know if you don't have a coach. Why does, why do people need it? You know, I'm not sort of. I'm not so much advertising coaching as stressing the importance Everybody needs somebody who will tell them the truth. You see, a friend doesn't necessarily tell you the truth. You might say, well, a good friend would, but that's very hard, because even a good friend doesn't want to sacrifice the friendship. And even a good friend worries that if they tell you something and even if they really feel you need to know number one, they don't feel sure that you will hear it from them. And number two, they worry that it will hurt the relationship. Whereas what a coach does is tell you the truth, that's what a coach is paid to do, and since you are paying the coach to tell you the truth, you're much more predisposed to. Hear it and to act on it, and so in in building a family, there are things you need to do. Your job doesn't end with putting your kid on the school bus every morning. That's irrelevant, that that may even undermine your main purpose, but what you need to do is make sure your children acquire these powerful spiritual characteristics that guarantee success, whichever avenue they embark upon. The back to the book by this professor with his eight points on happiness, and the second one, he said, is who you choose to marry, wrong again, in a similar kind of a way. Again, I know that this is going to strike you as sacrilegious in a way, heresy in a way, but that is that most men could marry. No, I'm taking that back. If you were the right man, if you were the man with the right internal powers, you could marry any one of five women, Agatha, Betty, Celeste, Diane or Elaine, see what I did there, and the kind of marriage you'll enjoy 10 years down the road, not going to be very different. They're all going to process towards the same because of your leadership. I'm talking to men more than women at that on that particular point. And so again, when I ask guys, why aren't you married? And they say, I haven't found the right girl, I burst out laughing, politely, but I laugh. That's not true. You're not the right man, because if you were the right man, you'd get married, and you'd feel confident in your ability to lead the marriage, and you'd feel confident in your wife's deep happiness at surrendering to a masterful leader as her husband. These things sound almost quaint today, and some of you might even feel that you want to react to me by saying, Look, Rabbi Lapin, you don't understand what things are like today. Yeah, I actually do. I've got a pretty good idea of how things are today, but I also know that there are certain aspects of human nature that do not change, regardless of technology, regardless of cultural trends, regardless of political trends, they don't change. There are certain aspects of wisdom that do not operate like technology. Technology operates in a way that each generation knows more than the previous. The Wisdom I'm talking about durable, timeless truths are such that your great grandmother may well have intuitively understood male female relationships better than you do, quite possibly. And so the idea that who you choose to marry is this big decision on which your future life happiness depends, nothing could be further from the truth that is unadulterated bilge water. That's right. Now I'm telling you these truths because my job is not to massage you with warm butter. It isn't whether I am your rabbi or your coach, it doesn't make any difference. My job is not to massage you with warm butter, but it is to tell you how the world really works. That's the key thing, and that's what we're talking about here. So if you decided to run your life, let's say you were very impressed with this book written by this professor. And here, look, here are eight guides. Here eight things you have to know about being happy and having a successful and fulfilling life. You're off on the wrong path right away, because it has nothing to do with the job you choose, and it has very little to do. You can make a really bad decision in a spouse. That is true. You can, but within a range of acceptability, it really is not such a big decision. The really important thing is what happens from the day you are married, how you run that marriage, how you build that relationship, and how you develop the marriage. And so those are really the important okay, let's say you decide to follow your therapist.
Daniel Lapin 19:59
Let's say, Yeah, I'm not going to go with that book, but I've got a really good therapist, and my therapist is going to tell me how to do it. Well, what's the difference between a therapist and a coach? There are a number of differences. A good coach knows how the world really works and tells it to you. A therapist makes you feel good. A therapist cares about your feelings. The therapist will often say to you, so how did that make you feel? That's one of the prime tools of therapy. Tell me how that made you feel. But if I'm your coach, you'll never hear me ask how it made you feel, almost never, because it just doesn't matter. What matters are actions, not feelings? How are you going to act? How are you going to respond? Get over your feelings. Become an adult. Now, it's tough, I know, but life is short, and there isn't time to Molly coddle, there isn't time to massage with warm butter. One has to get on with the important decisions and actions of a successful life. But you got a therapist. Okay? What does your therapist say? I don't know this stuff by heart, so you'll pardon me, but I have to look at this. So here's part of the therapeutic path to happiness, self acceptance and compassion. You have to learn to embrace your authentic self wrong. You have to improve your authentic self, not embrace it. You have to acknowledge the flaws in your authentic self. Tell me something. Would you like your friends and associates? Would you like the people you work with to get to know the authentic you probably not. You'd like them to get to know the you that you project as your outside persona. Maybe you're not quite as courageous as you like letting on. Maybe you're not quite as cheerful and optimistic as you like letting on. No, your authentic self is not to be embraced. It is to be acknowledged, confronted and corrected. Treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer a friend. No, you have to be much friendlier to and much kinder to friends than you are to yourself. You have to be tough with yourself. You have to demand much more of yourself than you would ever dream of demanding from a friend. Come on. I mean, you can see that that's true, right? Yeah, I'm not. I'm not trying to mock therapy. I mean, that would be like gilding the lily. I'm not trying to do that. But, I mean, you can see that that's really, really wrong advice. Number two, unpack the past process unresolved emotions and past traumas. That's No, let me tell you something. It's 50 years ago. I can't believe it, 50 years ago. I mean, I didn't see it 50 years ago, but I have seen it more recently. It was a cult classic from 1976 I forget who directed it, but it was called the gumball rally. Completely forgettable piece of nonsense, but it was entertaining at the time. But there was one moment that I took away with me, and that is, I remember the Ferrari driver was an Italian called Franco, and he's sitting in his Ferrari convertible. And I forget that somebody talking to him, and here's what he says. He says, The Secret my friend, of Italian driving. And as he's talking, he grabs the rear view mirror and rips it off and tosses it away out the window. The secret of Italian driving is what's behind me. Doesn't matter. That's right, your parents ruined your life? Fine, moving on and so unpacking the past, processing unresolved emotions and past trauma, absolutely not. We don't waste a lot of time discussing your childhood number three core values and meaning, identifying what truly matters to you, such as relationships, community or personal growth, perfect. Nothing wrong with that at all. So far, it's two wrong, one right out of five, healthy boundaries, taking responsibility for your own happiness. That's true, but the next part isn't by communicating your needs clearly. No, I don't have needs. It's not your responsibility to make me happy. It's not my parents' responsibility to make me happy. It's not even my spouse's job to make me happy. Did you hear me say that it's not my spouse's job to make me happy? Happy. It's my job...
Daniel Lapin 25:03
My job is to make me happy. My spouse just said something, but I didn't hear it.
Daniel Lapin 25:14
Susan Lapin said she heard me say that too. She does make me very happy, but it's not her job to do that. It's my job to be happy. So I'm going to give that one a half. So one and a half so far out of five and two and a half wrong. And then there was number four, half right, number five, mindfulness and resilience, developing tools they present, handle lives inevitable. Okay, that's good. That's good. So, yeah, so again, not a good roadmap to follow, if that, if that is to be your avenue for happiness. No, not, not a good part to follow at all. And here's another one. This one is for women. And this is a technique called using the power of female rage. And so ladies, this is another avenue to organize your life and to arrange your life, and so 123456, steps over here, or six parts to it, validate the emotion. Recognize that anger is often a protective response to injustice or boundary violations. Actually, anger is never an appropriate response in certain situations, you might decide you need to act angry, but to actually feel anger is to lose control. That's never acceptable. You will never make good progress by losing your grip on things, by expressing anger, losing your temper, it won't serve you well in relationships. Won't serve you well in work, it won't serve you well socially. When you lose your temper and you display anger, there could hardly be a bigger turn off to people. It scares people and frightens them. It's terrible, so recognizing their anger, no, next item is express you hear this, ladies express anger physically to move it out of the body. So you express it through intensity and screaming. Really, really. I mean, do you honestly buy that? Is there any world in which that makes sense, that this is somehow okay? Now, I've heard variations on this many times. It's always wrong, and somehow anger builds up in you like pus in a blister, and you know, you have to Lance it to let the pressure out. You've got to let the anger out so it doesn't. It's completely untrue. The truth is, and again, this is not something I should toss off in a in a 10 second noted. It's almost worthy of an entire course. And I can't tell you how many clients I have helped to overcome because anger is incredibly disruptive in both family and finance, in both business and in social and in intimate relationships, you got to learn to control your anger, and the more effectively you control it, the less you feel anger, the more you're able to become less of an angry person. Set firm boundaries, use rage as an internal signal to define you what you will not tolerate. You know there certainly can be things you won't tolerate then, but you don't not tolerate them by trying to control the other person by angry outbursts, not the way to do it, assertive communication in adopt explosive fury and tell them what you feel, how angry you are. I am angry when my time is not respected. Yeah, terrible. That was 123 that was number four. Number five, creative outlets utilize creative safe spaces like workshops for reflection and emotional expression, turning internal unrest into something Okay. I'll go with that one, reframe the narrative and again, that probably not too bad either, but four out of six really wrong and awfully bad advice. Very, very bad. And so what is the system that I recommend, and that is, and you know, as I. Say whether it's me or people I've trained. I train coaches to to help people with what I call, and it's our trademark 5f system, the 5f system. You've heard me speak about it all the time. I constantly end the show by saying onwards and upwards with your five F's, your family, your finances, your fitness, your friendship and your faith in no particular order. And so those, those are the five. Where does it come from? Like did I just pull them out of the brilliance of my head? No, they would. They would not be a good thing to rely on at all. No, they, they come from ancient Jewish wisdom. And have you ever wondered why the 10 Commandments were given on two tablets? You know, Moses, 80 years old. God saying, Okay, those are five for one. Now take another tablet. Moses should have said, Hey, God, listen, it's going to be hard enough. Getting me down the mountain with one big stone block two is going to be impossible. Let's reduce the font size and we'll get it all on one tablet. God said, now got to be on two tablets, five on each why? And ancient Jewish wisdom explains that there is a parallelism, parallelism between number one and number six, two and seven, three and 8495, and 10. And the parallelism, those are the 5f and again, this would warrant an entire show all on its own, just because it's so deep and so comprehensive and so absolutely thrillingly exciting. But just because I do want to give you a bit of a flavor of it, let me explain. Okay, the first one on the right hand side, on the first tablet, I'm the Lord your God, it's a statement of existence. Parallel to that, number six is, You shall not murder. So you can see, one is about God. One is about people. If you want a relationship with God, it doesn't happen till you acknowledge that he exists. That's why his first statement is, I'm the Lord your God, and the the and the the parallel on human being, if you don't acknowledge somebody else's right to exist, and you can't you retain the right to kill him if he bothers you, that doesn't work either. So You shall not murder and so the integrity of the being, the existence, that is fitness, that is my relationship with my body. In every aspect, there are many, many parts of it. It's it's an entire topic. And then we come to number two. And number two is, You shall have no other gods. There is an exclusive relationship. And number seven, no adultery. Relationships are exclusive. We're talking there about family. I have a relationship with my family that is different from all other relationships in every certain in every specific way. So we've got fitness, and then we have family, and then after that, we have possessions. God, you can't take my name in vain. It's my possessions. You can't use it. The parallel on the human side is You shall not steal. No stealing. You see possessions. Possessions are the things around you, namely your bank account, your racehorse, your vacation home, your car, your and relationships with people, your employees, your employer, your work, your bank manager, all of these people fit under finance. So you see, we've got so far, fitness, family finance. Number four is you shall keep the Sabbath day, and number nine is not bearing false witness. Don't say that people did things if they didn't do them, or don't say they didn't do them if they did. How you relate to people and matching to the Sabbath, which is a special family day, and I have to have to talk about this also, President Trump made a proclamation about the Sabbath, which I'll talk about sometime, not today, but now we're at family. So looking at the two tablets, we've got fitness, family finance, and now we've got the idea of not how you relate to other people. Connection. In other words, Sabbath. We don't relate to things and objects and we don't relate to our money or our tools or our technology. It's a time of connection and parallel to false witness. Again. Friends. Here we got a presentation of friendship. And then lastly, we have the fifth commandment is Honor your father and mother. There's a hierarchical concept here. What is my relationship with my parents? A Lama doesn't have any relationship to its parents. A chimpanzee has no relationship with its parents, but human beings do. And yes, there is obviously a genetic connection, but there is more to it than that. There is something very special. It is a spiritual connection, and that matches the last one of not coveting. What is coveting? I've already covered you mustn't steal if, as long as I don't take your possessions, how does it hurt you if I desire them, if I covet them, it doesn't hurt you. It hurts me. And all of this has to do with the faith area, the spiritual area of life. And so these are the 5f for First of all, your fitness, your family, your finances, your friendships and your faith in order down the two tablets of the 10 Commandments. And the important thing is that all these things interact with one another in the most remarkable ways that you wouldn't necessarily have thought of. I've had not one but two situations over the years where a person's financial abilities were impeded and handicapped and he didn't understand why. And when we started building the interlinks between family and fitness and friendship and finance and all of the 10 interlinks between these five F's, something became apparent, and I said to him, Tell me about your relationship with your father. He said, We haven't spoken for 15 years. We're estranged. So I said, Look, this isn't going to be easy for you to do. I'm sure there is a long history to the estrangement, but let's just put that all out of the way, and let's talk about reconnecting and rebuilding. I can't do it. I can't he's a terrible all accepted, but here's why you should do it, and in both situations, it turned out to be exactly right. The person's financial life exploded magnificently after the relationship with the parent was repaired. Honor your father and mother is not there because mom and dad need it. Honor your father and mother is because we need that vibrant, tangible, real connection with our parents and each of these 10 interlinks really, really works really, really has an important aspect to it. We know that maritally, the integrity of the marriage is impacted very much by money. We know a lot of things, and this is when I say we this is widely known. This is now the data, and the literature on this is unarguable and irrefutable, and that is that many money really impacts the marriage. We know that if women get a raise, If wife gets a raise, it harms the marriage. If husband gets a raise, it helps marriage. Wow, that's not very democratic or egalitarian, but it is how the world really works. Money is different for men and for women, and money has an impact on a marriage. And so if you're a guy and your wife is making more money than you are, you need to know how to deal with that. The two of you need to be very wise in handling that, because in and of itself, it's harming, not helping, or how about if husband takes a financial hit that's also harmful and difficult. Got to know how to work these things. These are real life things, and they're nothing that a psychologist can help on, because psychology says it shouldn't matter. Get over it. And, and that's a lot like saying to a man, well, I I'm not there are certain. There are things you can say to a man, go, get over it. It's nonsense. The things you can say to a woman, Oh, get a if, if a woman is experiencing baby hunger, she really wants a child, and for any one of a number of reasons, she's not able to have a child, you can't say to that woman, get over it. This is something that echoes within every molecule of her being. It's not a case. It gets. Over it. It's part of her reality. And that's very different. If a woman says, I'm having so much trouble with my tennis game, I just can't get my serve right there. You say, get over it. That doesn't have to impact your relationship with your children. Well, I'm so mad at myself because I can't get my serve, right? Get over it. That's fine. But when it comes to anything fundamental to the 5f and it impacts a man or there's no such thing as get over it. No, absolutely not. It's got to be fixed. Somebody you know, you might say to somebody, you need to you need to work out, you need to go running, you need to go to the gym every three times a week, whatever it is. And the person listens to the doctor speaking to him, but he says to himself, I'll do it when I've got my Business Breakthrough. I'm working on the sale. I'm working on this project. I don't have any spare I can't do it now. And the end result is that there is a relationship now between finance and fitness, which needs to be get and be fixed up. Because the right answer is not to wait until the finances are right and then deal with the fitness. You know that that's not right, in exactly the same way that vast numbers of American young women are being told, deal with finance first and put family on the back burner, and then all of a sudden, at 38 these women are deciding, well, now would be a good time to get married and have babies. And they're discovering it doesn't happen. So the what I call the interlinks, the 10 links between the 5f are really what are most important. There have been a couple of cases I've had where people's finances have been hurt because of friendship failures, meaning you actually need friends if you want to do well in business. It's not only a case of being good with your boss or good with those who report to you or your supervisor or your co No, you need a social circle as well. And again, I've covered this at length at other times, why that is and how your friend relationships interact with your financial life. It's important, and it's been quite a challenge for me sometimes with clients, to be able to say to me, yes, I know you're busy. I know you got a busy family and you got a busy business life, but you've got to make time for social connection. You need to build your circle of friends, and here's how we can do it. And of course, it makes a world of difference when it actually happens. Faith and finance. Can you see that interlink? Do you know how many people are hindered in finance because deep in their hearts are hurt. So many people's financial progress is harmed because they have the wrong beliefs that making money is an expression of greed, and they believe there isn't even such a thing as making money. It's taking money that for every dollar you acquire, somebody else has less. So there's something intrinsically unwholesome and maybe even immoral about making all of these sad, destructive and utterly false beliefs fall under the faith question, the whole idea of the spirituality of money. What money is? The difference between money and value? All of these things are absolutely critical parts of the faith finance interlink. And here we've just looked at five out of the 10 interlinks, and there are obviously another five that have to be examined. And these five we haven't gone into in any depth, but you get the idea everybody needs a an objective outside help to make sure they are watching and living and regulating their lives, building a road map according to how the world really works, not according to the way the world works, according to the happiness specialist who says that it all depends on who you choose to marry, or it all depends on the job you get, and not on the therapists who tell you that you have to spend time working out childhood trauma and not on the feminine rage specialists who tell you that you have to live your life according to expressing anger and rage. No, none of that works, and all that they will do is way down the road make you say, Why didn't you tell me these things? When I was 30 instead of when I was 70, and that's really what this is all about. And so my dear happy warriors, and that's what a happy warrior is, right? A happy warrior is somebody who's willing to confront the challenges with joy in their heart. A happy warrior, and that's what you are trying to become, and that is what I here. Am here to help you achieve and to become. So you know how to reach me. You go to Rabbi Daniel lapin.com and you'll find a contact us tab right there at our website, Rabbi Daniel lapin.com and there find a contact us. And you know, I like hearing from you all the time. Always want to hear from you. And if you have any questions, I can't always answer them personally. Sometimes they have to be answered in the Ask the rabbi column, which you'll see on the website as well. But I do appreciate the fact that each and every one of you is trying to make your life the best it can possibly be by adhering to the principles of the 5f system and understanding how the world really works. And so until next time, I want to wish you to continue your journey onwards and upward, improving and growing with your fitness and with your family and with your finances and with your friendships and with your faith, I'm Rabbi Daniel Lapin, God bless.
