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The Rabbi Daniel Lapin Podcast
Episode: Why You Guys MUST Join or Build a Band of Brothers
Date: 06/28/26 Length: 00:47:54
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Greetings, ladies and gentlemen, and welcome every single one of your happy warriors to the Rabbi Daniel Lapin show, where I, your rabbi, reveal
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how the world really works. That's cool. Didn't know I could do that. Okay, thanks for being part of the show. And let's see, couple of things. Obviously, if you haven't yet subscribed, please do that, and also to let you know that I'm preparing, together with Susan, an eight part series podcast, basically on the idea, on the question, is it time for Jews to leave America, as you know. In the 20th century, Jews had to leave most of Europe - 19th century, 1817, 16, all the way back. I mean, ago, 13th century, out of England,
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and generally speaking, those who left earlier rather than later got away with their lives, and even some assets.
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Those who delayed and waited too long very often lost both. And it's an interesting question. I think that Jews are becoming skittish in the United States of America. And so I wanted to answer that question: Is it time or is it not time? Is everything going to be fine? And why do we say that? So, at any rate,
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it's going to involve a little extra work in terms of travel and interviews and meetings, and so on. And so we decided that we needed sponsors for that series, and just to tell you, we decided we needed eight sponsors, and we've already got seven, so we're basically getting going with it already. We're good. What else? Oh, you know what? I wanted to give a special shout out to Jennifer from Silver Spring, Maryland. She's a longtime listener of the Rabbi Daniel Lapin show, and she just lost her father. And how did I find that out because I met her husband at a wedding on Wednesday night, and he mentioned she wasn't there because when you're in mourning, you don't go to weddings, you don't go to celebrations, you don't go to parties, and so Jennifer condolences, it changes everything. Losing a parent changes everything, and one never gets over it. One adapts to a new reality, that's all. And that's why the Hebrew word for comforting mourners, and that is the Hebrew word nichum avelim, that word comforting, interestingly enough, is exactly the same word used early in the book of Exodus, where it speaks about, well, actually chapter 12, not that early, speaks about children of Israel leaving Egypt, and how God redirected them around a certain route,
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and that word redirecting is the word used for comforting mourners, the implication being that when you, when you lose somebody close, as people have endured this note, nobody's coming along and patting you on the head and saying there you'll get over it, everything will be fine again, because that's not how it works. It's a new reality, it's a redirecting oneself into a new reality, and and so recognizing that as a reality of mourning is is really quite helpful, I think, and I just wanted to mention that for the benefit not only of Jennifer but all of you as well. If I were to tell you that one of a couple, either the husband or the wife,
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recently took off three days to go on a mountain climbing hike to climb, shall we say, Pikes Peak Mountain in Colorado, just because, just, they wanted to do it, and I would say to you, do you think it was the husband or the wife who did that, and I think you'd probably guess the husband, and you'd be right, that's exactly what it is. And so that being the case, I would ask you also, what do you think of
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if I were to say somebody, or shall we say I asked you one of the couple, husband or wife is going skydiving this weekend. Well, many women do. It's true, but as a regular hobby or base jumping, the weird and often illegal extreme sport of jumping off radio antennas, tall buildings, mountains with a parachute, and again you'd say, well, you know, probably men. Do you remember the old Darwin Awards? It was a lighthearted thing, was was years ago was big, where every year they'd award a Darwin Award to the person who most spectacularly killed himself doing. Something indescribably stupid. One of the people, for instance, got hold of a JTO bottle. You know what a JTO bottle is? J A T O stands for Jet Assisted Takeoff. It's like a self-contained rocket motor, you know, about the size. Gosh, they're.. it's about maybe six foot long or so, andthe Air Force uses them when they have to get a transport plane off a very short landing strip. There's not enough space for a normal long takeoff roll. They attach a Jato bottle, and it's a jet-assisted or a rocket-assisted takeoff, and I remember this one guy, actually out in California, attached a Jay-Toh bottle onto his car to see how fast it would go down, and he was, he went on a highway in the desert, and well, not surprisingly, they scraped his car and what was left of him off a cliff face several miles, and he was, and all Darwin awards are posthumous. Well, would you be shocked to hear that every Darwin Award ever gave out, given out was given out to a male? I'm not aware. I don't think anyone ever went to a woman. Why? What's different? How do you explain that men are more inclined to risk? Well, why?
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It's, you know, there is no animal on the planet that willingly and voluntarily risks its life doing something for absolutely no material benefit. You know, animals will will take risks to get food or to escape a predator, but what's that about, really? And yet men, much more than women, will do things that are incredibly risky for no material benefit whatsoever, other than they'll tell you it was the adrenaline rush, it was the thrill of doing it was the sense of achievement women don't have this, at least nowhere near to the same extent, so how do we explain, how do we understand this fundamental distinction between men and between women in that context. Well, part of it is that men yearn for something beyond comfort, survival, being in a way much more than women do in general.
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A woman tends to yearn for survival, for comfort, for a home, for children, for all the aspects of being, and that's one of the reasons even women understand the value in, shall we say, a shipwreck of women and children first. There is the understanding that a woman is valuable not going to say more valuable than a man, because I've emphasized again and again and again that it is the unit that works, and I'll be showing another example of that today in this show, that the aspect of a woman, part of the value is precisely that, that she knows that reproduction lies within her. She is the one who is going to decide yes or no on whether there's going to be a baby, and and it is a limit on the number of women that imposes population limits, and that's one of the simple reasons, because you know you understand that population is an advantage if you live on a small island populated by a tiny tribe, and a few miles away over the ocean is another island, bigger island populated by much, much, much bigger tribe, that that island is going to have more resources, it's going to have more going on, it's going to have more possibilities, and in general, many of young people from the small island will try and migrate to the bigger island, because large numbers of people are magical things happen with numbers of people. If those people are able to interact with one another, they all speak the same language, they can communicate, and they figured out a common currency system. Wow, there's no, there's no holding it back. Amazing things could happen, and so when Red Indian tribes, pardon me, bad mistake, indigenous American tribes, when they used to attack other tribes, or they used to attack white settlements, they generally killed the men and captured the women, took women back, the Vikings in North. In Europe, when they traveled on their raids, ranging pretty far again, what did they do? Killed men, captured women, and took women back. Why? Because women are a huge asset. The limit to population growth is not men. You don't need a lot of men, but you do need a lot of women, so capturing women is just a wise move. You increase the size of your tribe that way, and anyway, pretty obvious and pretty straightforward. So that is an aspect of a difference, but men are more able to be well, not able, tend to be lured by the abstract. So when was it Shackleton? No, it wasn't. Maybe it was Shackleton looking for one of his expeditions to Antarctica. He put up a sign, and it said, "Dangerous, very low pay likelihood of returning home not high. And he had applicants, and he interviewed people, and told them what it was, and he had no trouble filling up his ship with people whom, as you know, in the end they turned out to be a remarkably resilient band of men capable of huge, shall I say, endurance. I think that was the name of his ship, but that's the point.
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I don't think you'd get a lot of women responding to that ad, you would get a lot of men. Follow what I'm trying to get at here. There's really a difference here. Men can be attracted to join the army and go to war. Women do it, I know, but partially it's an expression of feminism. Partially it's a job, and I've heard of quite a number of instances of women who, when combat arrived, said, "Hey, I didn't sign up for this. This signed up to do a job. You'd never go and get guys and say, "Oh, I didn't know we'd actually be fighting. I don't want to do any fighting. It's a difference between men and women, in general, women tend to seek out jobs that, number one, are not physically dangerous, so you won't find women cleaning the insides of cooling towers of nuclear power stations, you know, 400 feet up in the air, you won't find a lot of women repairing wind generators, these things stand on pedestals 200 feet in the air with huge rotor blades with a generator inside a housing, and no, not a lot, and yet it's a job that men do do. Women tend to seek out jobs that are not physically dangerous, and they also, interestingly enough, overwhelmingly tend to seek out jobs where the salary is a fixed salary. Women do not flock to commission jobs, yet you can get guys all the time, including experienced, competent sales professionals who will accept happily jobs that offer no draw, that are strictly commission only; however, with no cap on the commission. So, again, it's not immediately advantageous. You don't know that you're going to get paid at the end of the week or the end of the month. However, men are more likely than women to be drawn to that kind of job, because they find the possibility of infinite earnings, where there truly is no limit. If you're on a commission-only job and you're not working for a stupid employer who caps your commission, there really is no limit, and there are many, many men who are eager for that type of position. Unusual to find women applying for that type of position, big difference.
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And so, what do we, what do we call it, and how do we more precisely articulate this distinction between men and women, more drawn to the abstract and comfortable with the abstract, women much more so with the practical and the real and the tangible, right? So also we know that with men it is much more a case of men having a broad range. In other words, the normal distribution curve varies by much more with men than with women. Let me give you an example of what I mean. The range of height in men is much more than the range of height in women, so with men you've got very short guys, you also have very tall guys, and so that broad range much more, because women there are shorter women and there are taller women, but the range nowhere near. The tallest women, not nearly as tall as the tallest men. Shortest women, not nearly as short. I know this also with hat sizes. A men's hat shop is more complicated a business to run, because the head size of men ranges from small to very big. If you run a woman's hat store, again, you don't need that bigger range of hat sizes, because women's smallest hat size is not that different from women's biggest hat size, but men's smallest hat size and men's biggest hats are very big range, and one more example is on intelligence on IQ. Okay, and IQ is largely unchangeable, that you know this idea that you can eat your veggies and improve your IQ, or or you can get and go to a school and in very minimal changes. IQ, for the most part, is not going to change during your lifetime and is largely genetic. It's largely a function of your parents. Interestingly enough, and this is something that is not well known in academic circles, but there is a link between concupiscent behavior and IQ. So, in other words, the one way of dramatically changing IQ, particularly over generations, if, if you are somebody who lives your life with not with some degree of control over your concupiscent activities. Let's say you live a healthy married life, and you raise a child, and you and your wife have a child who also lives like that. You will have a child who is of higher intelligence than a couple that is exactly the same intelligence as you, but who live a completely unrestrained lifestyle in the, in the area of male-female relationships, so restraint in sexuality improves intelligence over successive generations, so that's worthwhile knowing, that is a reality,
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but here back to the topic of men and women, what's quite interesting is that once again, just like the rule of men, the range is huge on men. There are, you know, those tales are far out. There are extremely intelligent guys out there at one end of the Bell distribution curve, but they're also incredibly dumb guys, you know, like the ones who win the Darwin Awards over at the other end with women, the curve is much tighter, so there are not a whole lot of super, super, super dumb women, but they're also not a whole lot of super, super, super smart women. Now, that doesn't mean anything about you, madam, it doesn't mean anything about any particular woman. We're talking about statistical distribution, but it does explain why there are very few female chess grand masters, very few. Why it's not because of bigotry in the chess association. Don't let them sell you on that stupidity, because there are some extraordinarily good women chess players, but in terms of statistical distribution, you need very high intelligence, so much so that very often chess grand masters are sort of awkward people socially, because very often people who are at the very high rarefied end of the intelligence distribution are people who are also so smart, as your mother probably once said, "Don't be so too smart for your own good. Sometimes it can be very, very smart, but it comes along with a certain nothing awful but a certain social awkwardness, and one sees a whole lot of that.
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There's so many examples that you can.. you can.. I was going to mention somebody, but I'm.. I've decided not to. You can, you know, very, very smart people. Yeah, that's a reality. So that is again part of the differences between men and women, but I'm more interested in focusing, for the moment, on the attraction of the man for the abstract. In other words, he's going to do things that don't benefit him, they don't make him stronger or safer or richer, and you know that soldier who dropped onto a grenade that was about to explode and saves the lives of his entire platoon, that was a guy for sure, right? It's different, because a woman rightly says, "Wait a second, you know, I'm the bearer of life. Yeah, if I die on that grenade, it's very nice. I've saved these other guys, but I'm the one who is now not going to have a baby. I'm not going to bring a baby into the world. Yeah, it's a big difference. And so, in general, when women are drawn to behavior, it is for the most part behavior that benefits them materially. It makes their lives safer, longer, healthier, more comfortable. Men will do things that it was exciting. It was so exciting, you can't believe how exciting it was.
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Yeah, but it was also incredibly dumb. What you did, the risk ratio, the risk reward ratio was so high. Why would you have done it? And the guys said, well, you know, if you don't get it, you don't get it. But most guys understand why I did it. It's also part of the reason that men dominate in the crime area, particularly in violent crime. You know, there are very, very few people who have made a success out of a life of crime. For the most part, you don't have to be a genius to know that by and large, there may be one or two exceptions, but you and I aren't going to be those exceptions, and we know that a life of crime, you know, it's got its excitement, it's got, you know, quick, but not a way to go, and most women figure that out and are not drawn to crime. Most who are drawn to crime are men. Again, because the way God created men and women differently, men, and some people say, well, men have a higher tolerance for risk. Well, it's much more than a higher tolerance for us, that's true, but it's more than that as well. It's actually an attraction toward it, particularly if the thrill is very high, and so again, something that that men and women are different in now we also see that, well, let me put it this way, our eyes or mouths, which organ in terms of what it takes in from the world, vision and sight or food, which one is the more abstract organ, and which one is the more physically real organ?
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Would you agree that the A is the more abstract organ, because all that enters your eye is a form of radio of electromagnetic vibrations, and from that your brain conjures up a picture depiction of what's out there of the reality, what enters is just electromagnetic vibrations, surely one of the most abstract of things, what enters our mouths? Food, well, that could hardly be more real. That is a tangible clump of a substance we call food, and that nurtures and sustains and keeps us going. And that's why I would say eyes tend to be more at the abstract end, call it spiritual, if you like, not in the sense of spiritual is good, it means godly and heaven, no, no, no, no, spiritual in terms of something that's not measurable, all right, so gratitude, empathy, sensitivity, these are all spiritual characteristics, weight, height, skin color, these are all physical characteristics, and so I would tend to say that that eyes are a more spiritually sensitive organ than mouth is, you know, you get food, you taste good, doesn't taste good, fine, that's about as far as it goes, but with our eyes we can actually look at people, some of us can look at people and get a little bit of an insight into the person's character from the way they look, not everybody has that optical sensitivity, but some people do, and the way they do it is using their eyes. So that being the case, let me ask you this.
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On the rainbow, which is reddish at one end and bluish at the other, of those two colors, red and blue, which one would you say is more abstract, more spiritual, and which one is more physical and real, and, and, and in tied to the reality of life, would you agree? Maybe, if not, by the way, that's what the comments are for. That's why I want you to become a happy warrior. Join our happy warrior community. That's one of the reasons, because then we have a dialog, and you're able to communicate with me, and I can communicate back with you within the community. So, if you're not yet a member of the Happy Warrior community, I'd love you to become one. Just go to Rabbi Daniel lapin.com and go to Happy Warriors, and join. Or, alternatively, you can go to WeHappywarriors.com -- WeHappywarriors.com same same thing, but different aspect of it. And again, you're able to join the community. At any rate, would you agree that blue, the color of heaven, the color which is, is has a coolness to it. I don't mean in terms of fashion, but I mean in terms the way a photographer might say it's a cool light, and indeed we think of pictures that are tinted towards the blue end of the spectrum, it has a cool look. How about pictures that are tinted towards the orange, yellow, red end of the spectrum, warm and red color of the earth, it's an earthy color, the color of blood, and even some recent research, which I found quite, quite interesting, actually shows that men are more attracted to women wearing red dresses, and they intuitively and maybe subconsciously regard that woman wearing red as more romantically available, interesting, but again, it's the color red. How about the red light district of town? Well, we know what goes on there, right? That's that's not where chess masters get together for chess tournaments. The red light district of town is the red light district of town. Everybody understands that that's the color red. What color do they put outside most police stations around the world? Blue, right, associated with law and order.
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Blue and red, opposite ends of the spectrum. Blue more spiritual and abstract, red more earthy, tangible, warm, hot eyes and mouth, cosmetic. What do women color their eyes with? Eyeliner is usually what blue, right? And even you know the Vikings certainly knew a woman with blue eyes were seen as more desirable, and it's genetically recessive. It's rarer to find women with blue eyes, but, but men like it, and so eyes that are more spiritual and more abstract, an organ, are the ones where blue theme seems to be the theme. What do people do with their mouth? Women, particularly, do with their mouths, they make them more red. That's what lipstick is, again, eyes, mouth, physical, spiritual, abstract, tangible. That's what's going on. As a matter, you just think about what the reverse would do. You know, what would you think of a woman who uses cosmetics to make her eyes seem red and her lips blue? It's ghostly, it's, it's vampire, it's, it's, it's deathly, you know, not at all attractive, but, yeah, that's that's part of the difference between men and women, men and women, abstract versus tangible reality, and you know, a man without a woman runs the risk of destroying himself in the pursuit of that abstract dream, whatever it is. Now, again, in a couple, you hear one of the couple wants to risk the household savings on an exciting new business plan, right? You know where that's going, you know exactly whether that's the man or the woman, right? 99 times out of 100 that's going to be the man. It's, it's a difference, butwith his wife involved, he may be more cautious, maybe he won't put everything in, or maybe he'll take a much closer look at this investment than he might have otherwise. In other words, a man without a woman has a tendency towards self-destruction, whether it's winning a dog and award or.
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Or having a parachute not open on some adventures journey, or or going bungee jumping with an elastic band that's too long, whatever it is, but generally men self-destruct, women provide that connection with reality and survival and life, yeah, life, and that's one of the reasons that in most states in the United States, insurance companies regard marital status as a major factor in setting insurance premiums, because actuarial studies show again and again that married men act less impulsively, and married men do less of the dangerous, crazy activities, and so, yeah, a dangerous mountain climbing trip, for the most part, single men, and it's well known, insurance people know that single men who've never given life insurance a thought in their lives, get married, and they buy life insurance, or maybe it's when they get a child, that's also part of it. Again, something a woman brings, a woman brings a man immortality, right? With a woman and a child, a woman gives you a child, you live forever, and you feel it subconsciously, perhaps, but you feel it, so men without women probably going to self-destruct in, in some madcap adventure that's going to be a lot of fun until it ends rather in an unfunny way, women without men probably so focused on the pursuit of security and survival and comfort that nothing big ever gets accomplished. This is probably why Camille Paglia, who I like very much, not Meta, but her books are very interesting. Camille Paglia, who calls herself a feminist, nonetheless states unequivocally and repeatedly that in a world of only women, women would be living in grass houses, grass huts, because the adventure and risks involved in discovering how to get steel and stone and bricks, and even chopping down trees. They're not a lot of women lumberjacks, not a lot of women doing that, that work for good reason. They'd be crazy to do it. It's not what women should do.
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Women shouldn't be risking their lives and bodies and safety, you know, unless a woman talks herself into it. Unlike animals, human beings can talk themselves into a lot of things. A man enjoys maximum mental health, which is in effect spiritual tranquility. That's what mental health really means when he acts and behaves in a masculine way, and women enjoy maximum spiritual tranquility when they experience life in a feminine kind of a way. Women who are in good marriages and who have babies are mentally more tranquil, don't question about it. They have greater spiritual tranquility, better mental health, if you let me use that phrase, then then single women, because it is an inescapable aspect of femininity reproduction. You can't separate those. Now you know I'm told about 10% of women are not going to have children, don't want to have children. Sometimes it's for health reasons, sometimes it's they've talked themselves out of having children, whatever it is. But 90% of women want to have children at some time or another with the falling fertility rates, right now we're on the threshold of a very disturbing period in the Western world in general, because fertility rates are below reproduction before, before below reproduction rates. In other words, maintenance of a stable population base, we've already sunk below that. The only industrialized country in the world that's an exception to this is Israel, and there's some very interesting reasons for that. There are also very interesting reasons the converse as to why fertility rates are so low, but the reality is that looking at the numbers as they currently exist, and we see no likelihood of those numbers changing substantially, because once you have a certain period of time of fertility rates below two, you then lack the number of women in the pipeline in order to have.
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Enough babies to change it in the future, so without sort of diving deeply into the statistics aspect, let's just say that in the Western world at the moment, I think this is true for most countries, it's certainly true for the United States. If a woman hits 27 without children, the odds are only 5050 that she will ever have a child. If a woman is, shall we say, 23 there's an 85 or higher percentage chance that she'll have the number of children she wants to have. If a woman is 30 or 35 the numbers dwindled down to the vanishing point, but imagine that there's only a 5050 chance that a childless 27 year old woman is going to have any children, and this stuff is not told, it's not spoken about, you know, in exactly the same way as in many districts around the United States, there are programs, which I am told are fairly successful. I don't know much about it myself. Where they send ex-convicts and people who've served time in penitentiaries, been incarcerated, to go around and talk. They should only talk to the boys, but they probably talk to everybody in high school, saying I want you to know what prison is like, and I want you to know how easy it is to slide onto a path that gets you to prison. They should also send around older women, older childless women who are willing to do a public service and would be willing to go around and speak to girls in high schools, saying don't waste your most fertile years worrying about your career, focus on marriage, because there'll never be a better time. That's a simple message. It's so obviously true. Do all kinds of women find they're all offensive? Did you hear what he just said? Yeah, okay, fine. But if you're offended at something I said, the real question is, if I said something truly offensive, was it a lie, was it disparaging of people, or was it true? If it's true, and you find it offensive, that's your problem, not mine. That means you need to get a thicker skin, because knowing the truth is pretty worthwhile. It's a good thing to be able to do, and so, so, yeah, so there it is, and, and that again, an important distinction between men and women. Women who have not been indoctrinated into the destructive pathways of second wave feminism envisage getting married and having children in a way men never do. Right? If you are a father of daughters, then you probably know that when they're five years old, they're absolutely enchanted with weddings, they're enchanted with babies, because every molecule of their being is telling them this is what you are all about, you have this magical capacity, guys, imagine you know, eight years old, nine years old, 15 year old boys thinking of their weddings, thinking of marriage, thinking of reproduction, not at all, not happening.
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It's a difference between men and women. I think that it's probably also true to say that women can find friendship and support within the extended family circle. Women, they might talk to sisters or sisters in law or their mothers or mothers in law, and might find that now women like friends as well, but they're okay, I think, in that, you know, if there's a variety of people, you know, if you, you were a woman, you grew up with six or seven sisters, you know, as my daughters grew up with five sisters, each one had five sisters, and you know, the relationship today, I would say that for each of those daughters, their most important, other than marital connection, but their most female, their closest, most important female relationships are with their sisters, and you know that that's pretty normal and standard, but it isn't the same for men. Men need friends, and so when I speak about the 5f and the F of friendship, which means friend, you know, and non-relative people who you relate to who are not through family or people you relate to through, not through finance, well, those are. Friendships and those groups are really important to men. I think of it as I call it a band of brothers, and there was a time where we used to get that as men in the workplace, right, because what happened was you worked in a job, and you may well have worked there for your entire working career. It's possible you might have been at a job for 10 years, 20 years, 30 years, and during that time, the guys you work with, you got to know them pretty well, because they were also there for a long period of time. And so, what happens with them. Well, you go out for a beer after work, you get to know one another, you become friends, you get invited to one another's events, and and you, you go through life like that. And then you retire together. That's that's how it used to be in the 20th century, but today people's typical tenure jobs much shorter? Number one, number two, people work at smaller situations. People very often work remote, and so nobody today - I shouldn't say nobody, but very few people today are building relationships with men. Many, very few men today are building lasting friendships with men at work, that isn't happening so much anymore today, but yet it's something we need, because whereas we can hopefully count on a job for a paycheck, it doesn't provide us with the male connection friends we need sporting activities and sporting sports enthusiasm. You can see that that fills part of the need, but we need men in our lives who help us demand more of ourselves. A band of brothers, we need men that help us dream, we need men who help us be self-disciplined, and that's what a Band of Brothers does. This is one of the reasons that men in the military, and men with whom you shared combat, those are relationships that you keep your whole life, because they're meaningful. You, you were there for one another. You really carried responsibility with respect to one another, and that kind of group is something that we men do need.
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And I want to hereby inspire you and encourage you that if you don't yet have a group of guys like that, and church is one of the best places to find it, synagogue one of the best places to find it, but if that's not your thing, and if you've not found it there, find it somewhere else, and find one guy, and then a second, and then a third, and you know, maybe it's with via a WhatsApp group, maybe you get together once a week, that would be great, and if your wife is as wise as I think she is, she will encourage you to get to get on a regular basis with your band of brothers, there is so much value in that, because we guys are different from women in many very important ways, but one of the ways is that we are drawn to, we are attracted to the abstract good. Think about how differently men and women vote. Single women vote for security and comfort. Single women vote for the party that promises things. Single men, they don't vote at all. It's the sing, it's the demographic, the demographic that does least voting. Single women vote, single men barely vote, married men and married women voted almost the same rate, which is no surprise, because typically they go and vote together, and by and large, other than in very, very peculiar marriages, men and women vote, husbands and wives vote together, and and they are the highest rate of voting. Married men and married women tend to vote for the abstract good, patriotic, the prestige and prosperity of a society. And so, in general, in the United States, for instance, single women, one of the most reliable voting demographics for the Democratic Party.
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Married women and married men vote Republican, and again, it's not to say that the party separation is at all as clear as maybe it once was, but. But in general, voting for the good of society, voting for the good of the country. In other words, women tend to support rent control or rent stabilization legislation. Men tend to not. Why? Because men tend to think, wait a second, over the long term, if you restrict market forces and you make it impossible for landlords to get a return on their investment, then they'll stop doing it, and housing availability will vanish. So, then they'll try and pass laws forcing landlords to keep their houses going and keep their building. You can't do it. There comes a point that's financially and economically unsustainable. So, again a difference. How men and women think, and one of the reasons why a man needs a woman, just like a woman needs a man, because between them together they're able to seek and find balance on this abstract, real red blue spectrum men and women together find a point that keeps everything healthy keeps them healthy and makes it possible for society to function men alone women alone both go to their own extreme but something that we find incredibly healthy something that adds considerably to masculine spiritual vitality and tranquility, otherwise known as mental health. A band of brothers, a group of guys, sometimes it's a case of holding one another accountable, whatever it is you're working on, and men should be working on something all the time. It could be as simple as losing weight, or trying to get up earlier in the morning, or or getting rid of an addiction. And again, you know that's something that guys can do for one another in a wonderful, wonderful way. There is, there is no way in which your life as a man isn't enriched by being part of a band of brothers, and sometimes because it's not so easy to find anymore today, it may fall on you to form and make this happen, and if you do, your life will be hugely enriched by it, so that is the F that I'm focusing on on the five that spoke about obviously family, male, female differences, and so on, but also the F of friendship is a very important part of it. So I think we'd better leave it over here, and so I want to wish you a wonderful week, a week of achievement in your 5f's in your families, in your finances, in your faith, your friendships, and your fitness. I'm Rabbi Daniel Lapin. God bless.
